In Awe/What?

I sometimes look at me and the relationships I've been in, and I am honestly in awe.
I question what made me attracted to the men I'm attracted to. What made him so special/unique? His hands, eyes, legs, lips, or traps? Or, was it his presence, sincerity, sense of humor, or the ability to be stronger than me?
The only common denominator that I've seen with all of my relationships is their health...or shall I say their body, that is with exception of one...they were all involved with fitness in some aspect.
I can say that almost all of my ex's had a sense of humor. But, clearly all of what they possesed wasn't enough. So how can I break this cycle? What next?
If nothing else, they were lessons well learned. Through rage, weight loss, abuse, and heartbreak...I am on top! Now, I must stay there!